Why do I give off so much ual energy?

For as long as I can remember, I have always attracted 'ual' relationships. I do like to have , but I also would prefer ti be in a relationship---solid---first. Well, now at 25 y/o, it seems no matter my intentions, intellect, how I dress, speak, where I meet men--- is always on the forefront of their minds and the topic of our conversations. Am I doomed to just be a lay to every guy I meet or is it a reason, they come at me this way? I swear, I don't talk provactively---but somehow the convo always gets to that QUICKLY in first meeting them. Am I imagining this? Should I be offended or change convo or cut them off? Or tell them, they 'have' to take me out and be in love with me? I mean, what gives?